I’ve spent much of my life trying to find a perfect balance between “I have to do X” and “I want to do Y.”  As a result, I’ve often denied myself an opportunity to live and really enjoy the present moment.

Every activity can be viewed as have to, want to, or get to. 

Have to” energy drains the life out of us. Obligation and responsibility fills our being. We act to meet other’s expectations and not our own.  We do to do. We give a small piece of our selves away every time we choose to view an activity as “have to.” “Have to” activities hold us in the past.

Want to” energy is filled with hope, optimism, and excitement. Goals and dreams live in this realm. A positive experience with fulfilling our “wants” builds our confidence, fearlessness, and drives our self-beliefs on what we see as possible. Conversely, our negative experience with not fulfilling our desires fills our world with frustration and regret. “Want to” ideology only works when we can turn them into “get to” action. Without this step, we live in a fantasy world.

We can dream about what we want, but what’s the point unless we are willing to take action?

Get to” energy is action oriented langage designed for living in the now. Imagine experiencing every activity as it is and not as we want it to be or it has to be. Reframing how we see “have to” or “want to” activities makes all the difference. Fully present in the moment, we are more aware and can easily let go of any preconceived expectations. We can be free of our self limiting beliefs. We can be grateful for all that exists in this moment. Nothing else matters. Living with “get to” energy is a privilege worth pursuing.

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Energy gives us the fuel to take on more. To stay focused and present in the moment. To transition from one activity to another. To navigate change with greater ease. To be the best we can be.

Our personal and professional satisfaction depends on our ability to manage our energy levels.

Depleted energy levels lead us to act out, seek instant gratification, and make choices that do not support who we are or who we want to be.

When properly maintained, our bodies are efficient energy producers. They will provide all the energy required to seek personal and professional satisfaction.

How well are you managing your energy levels? Not sure, take this energy audit.

1. Energizers:  What do you enjoy doing? What activities are you proud of? Which ones do you look forward to? Why do you enjoy doing them? What impact are you having on people, ideas, or things that are important to you?

2. Neutral:  What are you doing that you don’t care about? Why are these activities unimportant to you?

3. Drains:  What are you spending time on that does not support who you are or want to be? How do you feel when you perform these tasks? Why do you do them?

Boundless energy is required to become the best version of ourselves. 

What are you doing to re-fuel your body?

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